Love Shouldn’t Hurt: Domestic Violence Survivors Impact Panel
“Don’t worry brother, these things fall through.”
“I will find you and kill you.”
“I thought everyone goes through this.”
These were some of the few phrases that were said at Sylvania’s WRC, Love Shouldn’t Hurt: Domestic Violence Survivors Impact Panel on October 17th. For about two hours, three survivors bravely shared: their stories of their past, how they were able to break away from their abusers, where the gaps are in our judicial system, and how we can help survivors. Something that panelist/survivor, Audra Reed, said
“I thought everyone goes through this, by turning a blind eye and not getting involved [doesn’t help]. Become educated and get involved. By not doing that you are participating in the abuse cycle.”
Being supportive and asking “what can I do, let me know what I can I do, my door is always open” are small but pivitalty things to help.
What was most apparent in those few hours was that one of the most helpful things we can do for Domestic Violence survivors is to listen, to believe them, and not push them or force them to leave. Statistics have shown that when someone leaves an abusive relationship, the chances of serious injuries goes up by 75% and the presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%.
If you are a PCC student or know someone who would benefit from counseling services and is not a PCC student (regardless if they have insurance or not); Cascade, Newberg, Rock Creek, SE, and Sylvania all have counselors who are here for you.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Domestic Violence Resource Center 24/7 Crisis Line
[Now located within the Family Justice Center; 735 SW 158th Ave, Suite 100, Beaverton OR 97006]